Another "J"

So in the last few weeks I have found myself enjoying a little bit of light flirting with a co-worker of my, who joined my work while I was off in the Land of Enchantment. This Guy, who seems like and truly nice guy not only does he fall into another “J” on my list of “J” (why do like guys with “J” names, I ask myself for the millionth time, because they tend to be bad news for me), but he is cute, sweet, and I get truly honest good guy vibe off him. Now I come to find out he is engaged (thank you Lord for my BA in English and research skills, yes some people call it stalking, details, details people). Part of me wanted to tell him to go fark himself and look in the mirror, or did I miss read the signals. I don’t think I miss read anything, but he might have gotten the wrong impression that I was “That Kind of Girl”, while to the anther “J” the answer is fark no!!!

 I have standers, I may still may be learning what flirting is in some ways still and my ability to judge a guy ignitions may not be the greatest, but I am a wonderfully made being in the image of my heavenly father and I am loved by Him. That is what matters. I now know that guys who can cook are sexy and have dish pan hands are hot, but I will not let that fool me again. I am not the kind of woman, who goes after guys in relationships because I have been the other woman once, not by choice I had no clue at the time, but hated myself two years later when I found out. A guy, who flirts with other women, while they are in a relationship, just bad news, and what sadden me is that this “J” is teaching his daughters that it’s okay for a man to do this and it’s not. Any man who does even with good intentions is a not only a jerk, but has not respect for women or himself, let alone the sanctity of a relationship (at any level).

Women, who are like me and fell that we are somewhat cursed to be single, we have to come together and stand strong. I am coming to the conclusion that girlfriends are for friendships, and guys are not, but are for dating. I miss the close knit group I left behind in the Land of Enchantment and on the Mountain.  I know if they were here they would have gone out and solved “J” statist a long time ago.  I also think we have forgotten in our culture and time, what we need to do and that we are not in competition together but sisters standing for our Lord.